Proper

Text: 1 Corinthians 14:34-40

Theme: Everything in gathered worship times should be proper and in order.

Key verses: “the women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church” (v. 34-35). “If anyone thinks that he is a prophet, or spiritual, he should acknowledge that the things I am writing to you are a command of the Lord” (v. 37). “So, my brothers, earnestly desire to prophesy, and do not forbid speaking in tongues. But all things should be done decently and in order” (v. 39-40 ESV).

What God may have said to me: Dwayne, approach this passage with much caution and humility. Paul was speaking as the authority. He wasn’t trying to be cautious or show humility when he penned this letter. You , on the other hand, should be very humble and careful as you read and try to apply this. Here are a few clear takeaways from this often debated and rejected directive: First, note that Paul wasn’t in a debating mood. It’s as though he anticipated their strong objections to this portion of his letter before they even had a chance to read it. Prophesying, speaking in other tongues, and women vocally leading in worship meetings were apparently common among the Corinthian church at that time. Secondly, notice how he refers to the Law as agreeing with him on this matter. According to Paul, this was part of the law of Moses. As a person of authority, Paul doesn’t bother with citing where in the Law such a claim is made. He doesn’t take time to unpack the Law or explain its correlation. He simply mentions it in passing, to help strengthen his point. Third, the hinge on which most opinions and interpretations swing are the phrases, “are not permitted” and “done decently and in order.” What do those words mean exactly? Some translations substitute “not permitted” and “decently” with “proper.” It is not “proper” to allow a woman to speak. But what is “proper” exactly? Doesn’t that depend on the cultural context? Decently is a moral concept; whereas, “proper” or “appropriate” can be more of a cultural idea. Some theologians and scholars say the law is under the Old Covenant and is thus passed away and not applicable. They tend to say it is no longer inappropriate or improper for a woman to speak or preach in the church. But in context, Paul was speaking to a New Testament church. He was applying an Old Covenant law to the New Covenant Church. Morals and decency aren’t decided by culture or people. They are decided by me and my Word. These are the things you must grapple and come to terms with as/if you lead my people in my Church. There is no easy and clear solution here. However, to stay on the fence about this important directive regarding women in the church means you both agree and disagree at the same time. That cannot be, for that is the very definition of contradiction and confusion.

What I said to God: What just happened? I don’t feel like I understand this passage any better now than I did before. I know I need to land on one “side” or the other regarding this topic, but today’s devotional and scripture has not really helped me make a decision. No wonder there has always been such confusion and varying interpretations on this heated debate. All I can say is that I can’t take a clear stand on this matter if I can’t see it clearly in Your Word. Until I do, I will continue to be OK with ladies speaking and teaching in the Church, and I will continue to coach ladies to become better leaders of worship. Why? Because often they are the better leaders. Sadly, sometimes they step in and help make up for us men’s lack of leadership. Grant me discernment to decide and live by my convictions rather than my preferences.